“My world is painful, and when you are too afraid to call me or visit or say anything, you isolate me at a time when I most need to be cared about.”
When someone you care about suffers the loss of a baby or child to cot death you can have a sense of bewilderment about what you can do to help them. It is important to remember that your support and love will be of comfort to them, even if they don’t appear to respond to your attention.
You should also remember that everyone will react differently to grief, so there are no “rules” about what you should or shouldn’t do. But the one the thing you shouldn’t do is try and avoid them, just because you are unsure of what to say or do, as this only adds to the pain and isolation felt by parents. The following suggestions are offered to assist you, but the best thing you can do is ask them what they want:
Do
DON’T